Recently I was contacted by a guy on Match.com. 59, he said, all grey hair, part-time lawyer, enjoys his City life and yoga and we had several other things in common.
He sent a short e-mail about liking my profile and I responded wanting to know how zen and lawyer and yoga live in the same world?
He asked for my number and suggested we talk (Tuesday)
I respond with my number and throw out a few possibilities for my schedule. He e-mails 2 days later and suggests we meet for coffee and a walk in a popular SF neighborhood.
I heard nothing from him over the weekend but he did call on Sunday evening when I was out, and left a message. Something made me want to check his number. I Googled his digits and find out he is indeed a lawyer, one who has been suspended several times in the last 10 years, he is currently suspended - STRIKE 1 & 2, and that he is in fact 66 - STRIKE 3. On his web site I can see he has 1 rave review - and it seems written by a PR agency.
There is no shock that a lawyer would do some shady things, and it may be true that all is fair in love and war but if a lawyer can't cover his problems and publicly available facts this is not a great lawyer. No further questions, your honor.
*gavel hits the base*!
Case Closed
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I have, in my history of dating, had men who come back after a long break.
We either dated, they thought of me a long while later and contact me; or I think of them and contact them.
Obviously, things didn't work out but it didn't go so poorly to hate each other. I don't see it coming so at first I think, "wow, nice"....
I generally don't take this as a long, lost love that needed to come back...I don't want to go backwards. But I welcome the nostalgia and the opportunity to make nice with someone from the past.
Do I think it will resolve some karma? Maybe.
Has this ever come back to bite me in the butt? Yes, but just temporarily.
How about you? Do some of your people come back and want to say hi?
The most current guy who came back is actually back for a second time. We met when I was 19, in junior college, and I was friends with a friend of his. I had nothing serious on my mind for any of them. I hurt his friend badly - partially because he knew I liked the friend (but not overmuch) and I also only liked him a bit. They were both nice, we were young and I knew there was a lot of life left before anything serious needed to happen. The boomerang guy just happens to be able to move on and find his next place easier.
I don't actually have any regrets about this - just pondering something the boomerang said; "life is organic" - you can make it happen or let it happen but it's going to happen.
What shall I do with this wisdom?
Recently I was contacted by a guy on Match.com. 59, he said, all grey hair, part-time lawyer, enjoys his City life and yoga and we had several other things in common.
